4 Can’t-Miss Tips for Building a Good Relationship With God

The Lord Is My Shepherd
6 min readAug 23, 2020

By Jingnian, US

God says, “To build a good relationship with God is a top priority for anyone believing in God; everyone should treat it as the most important task and as their major life event. Everything you do should be weighed against whether or not you have a normal relationship with God” (“How Is Your Relationship With God”).

In God’s word, we can see that it’s quite important to have a proper relationship with God. So how can we achieve that?

Firstly, we must give our heart to God and make Him our sovereign, have a true prayer and communion with God to gain guidance of the Holy Spirit.


The Bible says, “Keep your heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23). Because man’s heart is the temple of God, the most significant rule of practice is to quiet our heart before God in establishing a proper relationship with Him.

Today we live in a busy and crowded times. The fast paced life lets us be occupied by a variety kind of people and things, so that we seldom have time to quiet our heart before God and draw near to God and contemplate Him. Because our heart is always distant from God, in real life we live in a hurried status, and we exhaust ourselves dealing with varying people and things each day, weary both physically and mentally. However, we must have once experienced this: When we quiet ourselves before God, with His guidance, we are able to see through many things, and we will yield twice the result with half the effort in doing things. From this, we can see the key to establishing a proper relation with God is to give our heart to Him. To achieve such effect, we need to pray to Him actively and often contemplate His love and grace on us. Then we’ll be touched by His Spirit unconsciously and we can live before God constantly.

Secondly, we must often read God’s word, fellowshiping about the truth and practicing it, and perform our duties well to repay His love.

The Lord Jesus said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man comes to the Father, but by me

But most of the time, we may ignore reading God’s word because of our busy work, so that our life in spirit will wither with time. Without the guidance and provision of God’s word, we cannot see clearly things happening to us, like the blind seeking in the dark; yet things will be different if we read God’s word often and live under his guidance. God’s word is the light in our way, with His word, we will have the direction to walk. Just as what God says, “Truly I say to you, Except you be converted, and become as little children, you shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven” (Matthew 18:3). We can know from God’s word that He requires us to be the honest for only those who are honest can be the real man, by God and enter into His kingdom. In addition, to those words of God we do not understand, we still need to fellowship with those who understand the truth, so that we can understand and practice the truth. In a word, we can understand the truth clearer and clearer and know God better and better only if we read, ponder, communicate, and practice God’s word often. With such an effect, we will have a proper relationship with God.

Thirdly, we should set our intentions right in all things and accept God’s observation, not thinking of ourselves, but obeying God’s arrangements.

Setting our intentions right in everything is also significant to establishing a proper relationship with God. Though many people follow God, few of them can truly act in accordance with His intention. Many people believe in God Bring you all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in my house, and prove me now herewith, said the LORD of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it” (Malachi 3:10). This is because I think they should be paid by my own, and because I should repay God for His giving them to me. And there’s another hidden intention that I would be given more by God if I satisfied Him with enough offerings. Like what Paul said, “I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith. From now on there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day” (2 Timothy 4:7–8). I was all for Paul’s word. I thought: What is it that I sacrifice and pay a little bit now if I can gain the glorious crown in the future?

I don’t believe there are only one or two people who think so. But we should also think over this: If our devoting, running around and expending ourselves are not for performing duties as a creature, but for obtaining more grace from God, it is our deceit on God. In this case, is there any meaning even if we paid a lot for the service of God? God looks into the bottom of people’s heart, so with such deceit, how can we gain God’s approval? And how can we establish a proper relationship with God? Therefore, to have a proper relationship with God, it brooks no delay that we should cast all our impurities and incorrect intentions away in believing in God.

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Finally, we should seek truth in all things, pursue loving God from our heart, and practice love for God, letting God decide all things for us.

Our life is full of variables. Unknowingly, we fall into darkness because of a certain thing. It was just like one thing I had experienced recently: I failed in an executive election of our company, which let me lose face. It rankled in my mind, and I couldn’t calm down before God when I thought of it. After that, my friend told me, “Since the failure in the election came upon you, you should seek God’s will in it! There is God’s good purpose behind everything. You have to seek the truth and find God’s good purpose from it.” Through my friend’s reminding, I began to have prayers and undertake self-reflection. After praying to God and reading God’s word for many times, I finally saw that there is indeed God’s good purpose in that lost election. Since I made some achievements for my company, I had been occupied with ambitious desires, seeking greater developments in my company. In order to realize my plan, I worked all day for a long time, so that I didn’t have time to pray, read God’s word and attend meetings. My heart was getting far away from God, and sometimes, I was even overcome by sin. Seeing that I lost in pursuing fame and profits, God pulled me out through my failure in the election, so that I reflected upon myself and understood His will and returned to Him. Then I finally found there was indeed God’s good purpose in it! So, seeking the truth in all things is one of the key practices in establishing a proper relationship with God.

From: Grow in Christ

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